Rediscovering my feminine side and loving it!

Hi Ladies

Im totally new to blogging so ask you all to bear with me as i find my ground in this medium.

Im a 43 year old straight English woman, who belongs to the lost generation regarding femininity. I would say lost because, being born in the 1960s, and being a child in the 1970, to finally reaching my 20s in the 1980s, my generation took observed and took on a lot of changes regarding womens lives.

I received a lot of mixed messages. Having been influenced by television and films from the 60s and 70s which portrayed women as feminine, stay at home gals, to the late 70s/early 80s and onwards career and strong women characters such as Charlies Angels, Xena Warrior Princess, Relic Hunter and real life superwoman, or supposed superwoman Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher. I, and lots of women of my generation were conflicted. In that should we look to get married and have families? or carve out careers for ourselves?

Most of my friends went to university, and opted for the career path, whilst i struggled to find a path that was right for me. I want you all to know that although I didnt attend university, I attended a place with a far more important schooling, and that is THE UNIVERSITY OF LIFE.

This school was at times a tough school in that I made major mistakes regarding my dating/love life, partly because I was brought up in a single-parent home, by an emotionally distant father, so I never learned how to positively interract with a man, plus I lacked the so vital knowledge that is and must be passed down from mother to daughter, in how to be in touch and enjoy the feminine side and feminine energies.

My dating disasters led me to examine myself internally mentally and emotionally. Those probings led me to attend an NLP training course in Manchester, October 2005. Whilst there I met a man who turned my life upside down. His name was Adam. He was different from most of the men I usually met, who had been carbon copies of my dad. Adam was masculine, yet sensitive and had a purpose to his life. A real man. We were attracted to each other, but couldnt do anything about it, because he was going through a heavy divorce, and I told him that i dont date married men, and to get in touch when his divorce came through.

We stayed friends, however, nothing happened between us. I was very upset as you can imagine, as I finally thought, I now breaking my pattern of attracting inappropriate and emotionally unavailable men. So i got on with my life, and started to seek out people who had successful dating lives. I sought out and still seek out male and female dating coaches who have successful love lives, who teach men and women how to have honest, real, confidant and perfectly functional relationships. For those people Im thankful, as I feel, and other women i know feel, that we have had to learn what make for successful relationships the hard way, through many mistakes.

So, this brings me to my point. Ladies like yourselves, i dont say that im perfect or im dating the right man at the moment, as im taking time out to really get to know me. This is something I would advise all women to do, regardless of age, as having a good, relationship with yourself first, is the most important one. In other words, no-one can like, love, respect, and cherish you unless you do it for yourself first!

Its so important that we have high self-confidance,high self-worth, high self-esteem, dignity without compromising our souls. Im so angry that people, especially women are not taught these things in school or by families. I especially feel for the generation of women now in their 20s who have increasingly been raised in single-parent families, and because their mothers have had to work hard to bring money in, havent had time to be in their feminine energies, never mind show their daughters how to do so.

I stick my neck out, and say that the FEMINIST WOMENS LIBBERS have sold women a lie. The big lies being that women can have sex and sleep around like men - not so ladies! The second lie is that women can have it all. Again not so!

In my next post Il go into more details about the feminist womens lib movement and what its really all about. In the meantime fellow ladies who are rediscovering the joys of feminine energy i so look forward to feedback on my first time post.

Im proud to be a woman, and I really love being a feminine woman.

Being feminine rocks


Speak soon

Sharon